This is hardly a topic to be discussed at such a time and yet it is just the topic to be discussed at such a time! Strikes.. Political dilemmas.. People constantly and most easily speaking of the definite advance of this country towards its complete ruin, a saying that takes away my ability to breathe every time I hear it and I wonder how can they endure repeating it so calmly as if it's not the ruin of our very own lives they're talking about.. And meanwhile no reliable facts or dependable figures anywhere in the horizon. Discussing the most urgent current issues seems only to stir disagreements and end up with each party claiming the other's heads. This state of instability hardly makes the subject of position of women something of interest at the time, or any other time if you ask me, but it's just that! You have to take your mind off all of this and think and speak of something else, and when "something else" is wanting, this topic is just as good as any other topic can be.
Women have been the most overly discussed topic of all time. If an alien has been discovered wandering about, I doubt it would have stirred up that much interest in analyzing its behavior and motives, classifying its types and psyching its emotions. And yet women, as long living on this planet as humanity is, are strangely still till date so much debated!
I don't bother at all with whatever anyone has to say on that subject. Call women hysterical, jealous, unreliable, untrustworthy or even stupid and whatever else may please you, because this is just stereotyping of the meaningless almost harmless type that does harm to people's estimation of the intellect of those speaking them more than it does harm to women . Stereotyping can be dangerous when applied to a small sector of society that may suffer prejudice and ill treatment based on it. But when attempting to stereotype nearly half the inhabitants of the planet! Good luck with that! Your opinion hardly matters or makes anything different. You'll still have to deal with women and find out for yourself how different everyone is, because "different" is just the way God made people regardless of their gender. Mostly when people burst out saying these stuff, they only mean to tease you and see you burning with anger trying to disclaim these accusations, and I hate giving anyone such pleasure.
What society expects from women though is very different from one society to another, and I speak mostly of the middle class. In some societies girls are brought up to be only good mothers and wives. In most modern societies both a career and a family are pursued, with some succeeding in excelling both and the majority excelling eventually at some aspect at the expense of the other. Our society falls in a unique pit in between, girls are pushed very hard towards the brilliant career path all their lives and then when they reach a marriageable age, the pushing all of a sudden turns towards the family path alone! Properly raising your children, if you have any, is a main mission in your life that's no debate issue, but is it the only mission? You are allowed to personalize your phone to match your taste and needs but you are not allowed to personalize your life? The fact that there is no perfect universal scenario that fits to every one's life manages to escape many people's notice somehow. That you have a right to choose your priorities and choose what you want to place first in your life. That you shouldn't be condemned if what you want to do with your life is dedicate it to excelling at a difficult time consuming job, and shouldn't be called weak if you sacrifice a difficult time consuming job for the sake of having a family, and shouldn't be called dreamy if you want to try your luck with doing well at both. The right to CHOOSE any of these paths is what I'm talking about. To think women don't have that right is your own business, but to have that said at universities and applauded for? I can't even think of what it indicates.
As much as I don't care about what anyone says of what I'm supposed to be doing with my life or my time as long as I can get my own way at the end, I couldn't help being shocked today at the lecture, when our professor said that unless it's out of need for money, a woman shouldn't work. Too much education or career ambitions are just nonsense, and a sane woman should understand that her "sole" mission is to raise her children and tend to the house work, which is more than she needs to occupy her time, he said. He said that at the faculty of Medicine, a place where you need to work very hard to get to and continue to labor even harder to get through, to an audience constituted of nearly 75% females. And what did the 25% male audience receiving the supposed to be finest education in the country do? They applauded! In the course of the previous week too, another professor said exactly the same opinions to the students during a clinical tutorial, and said that girls shouldn't be allowed at the faculty of medicine at all. It's home only where we belong!
Now, it's true that every one has a right to an opinion, but I can't see how can any one have a right to broadcast such opinion in a university lectures hall! In a university! Telling students they shouldn't be getting that quality of education AND receiving applause for it! Should that be even allowed? A place where people are supposed to be encouraged to seek knowledge, to pursue the career they have worked so hard for, encouraged to keep their minds open for all the options they have for their lives and guided on how to choose the best for them and then giving them the freedom to make that choice. It's where these opinions have been said and what it signifies is the irony.
That's been said, now we have to be back to thinking about the puzzling current events.. or may be not....
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