Half the time, or may be more, we are just being big mouths full of wise words, specially when we have so little experience with life. We keep imagining situations when our beliefs and ideals would be tested and we keep telling ourselves how we would act up to them. And then... BANG! It's time for testing your ideas! It's a situation that demands your acting up to your principals! And then you find out that living your ideals is not always as easy or smooth going as you thought would be. It's not that we are hippocrates, or that we intentionally build up our egos all the time, it's that we are truly so little experienced, with so little ability to imagine how difficult some things can be when it's time to really do them. Bottom line, no one is as ideal as they think they are, so take it easy when you judge the actions of others who God has chosen to test, and thank God if you have been spared from tests or have been allowed to pass them by His grace.
You are not always to be held accountable for everyone who thinks you are the cause of their unhappiness or misery. Sometimes you really are, but really, many times you are not. Many times the fault is not yours and it's them who should be out there working out their own problems instead of blaming them on you. How do we tell the difference? I guess we always know at heart But ironically, when it's our fault we choose to be heartless, and when it's not our fault we choose to indulge in senseless guilt.
They say that the definition of stupidity is doing the same thing over and over and expecting different results every time. I say that's a stupid definition of stupidity! Some things do have different outcomes every time you try them people! Have you ever tried throwing a basketball at a basket? Exactly! So keep on doing those things! Don't stop unless you have reasons good enough that they could be written down on a piece of paper and look pretty on it!
This one is going to sound a little pessimistic, but when it's really the critical time, everybody looks out for themselves. The number of people who would sacrifice their own good to look after yours is zero or a number that can be approximated to zero. It goes without saying that you should cling tightly to those who proved they would. But again that's no guarantee that you would do the same for them! Remember not to have a high opinion of yourself unless you've been tested! That's the whole point of life; trials, tests and finding out what you're really made of through them.
Life is unfair. That's often very clear and it has happened to everyone. Except that we don't complain about it unless "unfair" has worked against our favor. Have you complained before because you have scored very high on a test you've worked so little for? I would confidently bet you haven't screamed out angrily that it was unfair. But when we taste the bitter unfair we forget how we have benefited from its sweetness before. But yeah, life "looks" unfair sometimes. And I say "looks" because as believers in God we believe that there is some supreme wisdom working out and arranging things for you, that all events would fall in some pattern that's in your favor at the end even if every little event didn't look "that fair" at its time. That's the only thing that keeps you going, the only reason you chew on that bitter unfairness, swallow it and yet bite another full chunk off life risking tasting the stinging bitterness again. And seriously I have no idea how people who don't have that belief tolerate life at all.
As a rule among the regular citizens you would meet everyday, including yourself, hardly anybody looks themselves in the mirror and tell themselves how vile they are. "I am unjust! I wrong everybody! Everybody I know is way better and I don't deserve them!". No. Hardly anybody says these things. They do say them at times, but usually people say these things so that others would start assuring them how good and great they are. Harsh but I guess true. Truth is most of the time we all see ourselves victims of everyone else's evils, and God! I wish there has been an indicator to tell when you are really a victim and when you should be on your knees asking God for forgiveness! Sadly, there isn't. It's always left for your subjective self-biased senses to judge. So I say just for the sake of cautiousness, always get down on your knees and ask for forgiveness anyway, the outcome will always turn out best this way.
In conclusion to this, go eat something. That's one thing that can never hurt at the end of the day.
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